What is therapy?

For me, therapy is a relationship that is very different from our regular experience of interacting with people. By being deeply listened to and understood by someone else, without judgement or an agenda, we can often understand ourselves more clearly.

Therapy can begin to identify patterns that shape how we feel about ourselves and relate to others. Often these patterns developed earlier in life, but may now be keeping us stuck as they feel hard to shift. By taking time to be curious and explore our inner world, we can make sense of our experiences - why things have turned out the way they have.

This knowledge can have a settling effect. For many people it can help to turn the noise down and give a sense of relief and healing.

Why do people come to therapy?

People usually come to therapy because something inside has been asking for attention.

Some people may have noticed recurring relationship dynamics or emotional reactions that feel out of proportion. Others may be looking to explore uncertainties about the future, intimacy or communication in relationships, difficult decisions or transitions, living with loss or grief, or questions about identity.

What will we do?

Together we’d look at what’s going on in your life and what you want for yourself. This often involves exploring your past experiences to understand how they could be contributing to your current feelings or behaviour, but some people prefer to focus on the here and now.

An important part of how I work is by creating a grounded and thoughtful space where we can slow down and begin to make sense of what’s difficult. This process will be led by you, and I will bring my own perspective and curiosity so that we can make sense of things together rather than telling you what to think or do.

Therapy is a personal experience and will look different for everyone. It can be short and structured over a specific time period, or can be more flexible and exploratory.